In my previous post, I talked about how opportunity is everywhere. You just have to realize this and you need to act. Many people do not realize that opportunity is staring right at them. Even if they do realize it, many people stutter and do not act. Well, this post is about how to recognize opportunity and how to act on it.
Recognizing opportunity is not as difficult as one would think. The most important step to recognizing opportunity is being open to it. Be kind, courteous and friendly to others. Be open to that random conversation, or line about the weather, or how the coffee shop is taking its sweet time this morning. You can make a small comment about something you saw in the newspaper. If someone is up for having a conversation with you, have a conversation with them. If you feel uncomfortable at any point, stop talking, walk away or move to another place.
As cheesy as it sounds, did someone catch your eye and make eye contact with you? Smile at them. Are they smiling back? Is someone laughing at your jokes, giving you compliments, touching your arm while having a conversation with you? Does a person really need to say that they like you? Reciprocate when it does happen. And it will happen. You just need to open your eyes and see it happen.
Here are examples of where opportunity can occur: Standing in line at the market, at a friend’s house, while holding the door at the local coffee shop, at a bookstore while browsing books, at work in the lunch room, out on a hike, and while volunteering. Everywhere and anywhere you can imagine.
But wait! I don’t like to do any of those things. I’m an introvert and I’m shy. The issue here isn’t about not being able to see opportunity. Many people can recognize the social cues of being friendly or flirty or being kind. Those are relatively easy to spot for most people. The real issue here is how to act on it.
Get out of your head and act. Do. Go and do. Most people are scared in one form or another. Most people are afraid of rejection. My question to that is, “Is the possibility of making a new friend, or relationship, worth the possibility of getting rejected or even humiliated?” All a person has to do is say one magic word. “Hi.” If it doesn’t work out, then it wasn’t meant to be. If you are fearful, I recommend the book, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyways” by Susan Jeffers. It’s a good read on how to act when feeling fear.
I stumbled across this article on dappered.com. Check it out HERE.
It’s a great perspective of how many men think women are out of their league. It’s also an example of how men will stop themselves from acting on opportunity.
Someone usually has to step up to the plate, be confident, and make the interaction happen. Typically, this is the man but at times, can be a woman. “But wait! I’m an introvert and I’m shy.” To this response, I call phooey! There are people who say that I can’t talk to people. I can’t do this. I can’t do that. I don’t have this. I don’t look like that. And the excuses keep coming. Phooey I say! Stop making excuses for yourself.
Here is the bottom line, when opportunity arises, which it will many many times, a person needs to be confident and step up to the plate to make something happen. You know, confidence, that thing millions of women say is the sexiest thing about a man. Confidence is not about being an extrovert, introvert, shy, loud, arrogant, obnoxious, having big muscles, owning lots of expensive toys, dressing in a specific manner. Confidence is about being able to accept yourself, wholly. Confidence is about being able to see your flaws and be okay with them. Now how to become confident, that takes time and effort and I can take you there.
As I’ve said, the opportunities to meet good people and have great relationships are out there. They are very recognizable and easy to see. Opportunity is everywhere. If you step up to the plate and take a swing, that’s another story. It takes a confident person to take a swing and risk striking out. When you make contact, and you will in time, you may hit a home run. You never know what will happen unless you try.